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As The SMILE LaDy,Ensuring yOUR childs basic needs are met, while helping them tap into their inner SMILE (Purpose). Bridging the gap between our Elders and Youth. Everyone is here for a purpose (Born to SMILE) and it is our job as a community (The Village) to bring out the best in our children helping them work in their purpose. The SMILE program enhances School Programs providing support for teachers and or parents/guardians/foster/juvinille homes.

Friday, April 4, 2008

The DREAM Continues 40 years Later

Would Martin Luther King Jr... be Proud !
April 4, 1968 Dr. King was assasinated while fulfilling his Dream. He knew the danger , but also knew he could not live with himself if he did not follow his passion, purpose.
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I have FAITH in our youth today! We must help them tap into THIER inner SMILE because we were all put here for a purpose and the sooner we work it, the better off EVERYONE will be, we will SMILE and Be Happy! ... We must work our SMILE in our own Unique way using our God Given Talent, we must latch on to POSITIVE Role Models... and GIVE BACK, Our gift is not to keep for ourselves... We MUST share and leave this place Better than we found it. Always remember "The world would NOT be the same without YOU!" That is a FACT, and you are Not a mistake, You are here for a purpose .... so get busy.
Ask your self this ONE Question: "What is it I LOVE doing so much , I would do it even if I DID NOT get paid?" That is your Gift and your purpose. Perfect it and share it every chance you get. It is your personal SMILE
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We are making history this voting year. Three Senators running for President, The Oldest, A Woman, and a African American!
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It is time for a change and we must Educate ourselves and Vote for the best person to run the country. Register To Vote if you will be 18 a month before the November Election! Young people will elect the next President! It is time for a Change! Yes Martin Luther King Jr. Would be Proud!




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Thursday, April 3, 2008

It is RUDE to Whisper in Public

Have you heard this before???
Well the NEW Whispering is "Text Messaging" I have seen so many people texting while with someone else, during church, business meetings, driving you name it... ignoring everyone else around them. No one says anything because it is todays "Norm"
If you sit there and take it, then you are silently approving it... Think about it... speak up.
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I say it is todays "Whispering" I do not think anyone is more important than the person you are with, and if you MUST text excuse yourself or ask permission (include the other person) Maybe I am just old fashion (I love it) ... I just think we have gone a bit too far with technology using it to replace "Personal" Contact.

Keep SMILEing and connect with someone today... make a personal phone call, hand write a personal note, compliment a stranger, take a sack lunch to your child's school today... be creative. It is Worth it. Share your SMILE.


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It is RUDE to Whisper in Public

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Monday, January 7, 2008

Year of Prosperity and New Beginnings!

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Welcome to 2008! And we have so much more to do. As we reflect on 2007 and all that we have accomplished it should make you SMILE! You made it. "... Today is a gift, that is why they call it "The Present" African Proverb.
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This year My SMILE Pick is Victor Wright a John Muir Alumni, Class of 1979, an inspiring young man encouraging our youth to work their purpose and get an education. He needs a new VAN, still riding around in a 1984 VAN //please visit his website: http://taylordark.com/wright.html

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As we continue to interact with our youth, we should take them with us (shadow) so they can see what the REAL world is like, not just to Disney Land, shopping and school... but to different places we do not want to go but have to, paying bills, etc expose them to lives of the less fortunate... feed the homeless , also take them to an Opera, Ballet , I strongly encourage taking in an Exchange Student exposing your children to another culture without the expense of taking the entire family out of the Country. It is very rewarding.
<>If your child will become 18 by the next Main Election, have them register to vote and walk them through the process, discuss politics and learn together .
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<> Once we accomplish this, the violence will decrease, our children will be healthier mentally and physically and test scores will improve because each child will KNOW their purpose, it is NO SECRET that Everyone is here to SMILE, they are now paying people to help you smile and SMILE... we are getting so caught up in material things we are forgetting the TRUE THING... Life and Being happy working our Purpose. Do what you truly LOVE and the money will come.
Relax, Reflect and Move ahead to a New Beginning in 2008! This is the year of Prosperity
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Thanks for SMILEing

Saturday, December 29, 2007

Use Technology Wisely... Relax/Reflect/ReConnect

My Theme for 2008 (gift giving and otherwise) ReConnect, and RELAX/Reflect ... Choose JOY
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Use Technology Wisely, do not allow it to replace PERSONAL Contact (Reconnect) . Technology should free up your time so you can spend more physical (face to face) contact with your Loved ones (Community/Village) . Our young people are starving for Dicipline and Love... they need social personal contact (not just text message and Avatar ) so they know what Positive relationships feel like (Trust), the media is so fake, and our youth is trying to live up to a Virtual Image that has been retouched digitally or by surgery. This is not healthy. As I have mentioned before (Maslov and Marshal Rosenberg) There are NINE (9) Basic needs of ALL Humans
>Sustenance= Food and Shelter// Protection// Empathy// Community// Trust//Celebration (Rest/Work/Play)//Love (Agape)//Autonomy (Choices) // Purpose (1 & 9) We were ALL born for a Purpose!
>Make Sure all of your needs are met, then WORK YOUR PURPOSE! ...
Choose JOY! DAILY... remember you have a "Choice" Autonomy....
I guess you want to know HOW
H= Honest about Where you are
O Open Minded... Get out of your comfort Zone...
W Willing to Change... Correct what is not working.
Getting Started:
RECONNECT/Reflect with a SMILE
Go thru Old pictures send them to the people as you pray for them with a handwritten Note... , Invite a friend or Elderly to Lunch or cook for them, Send Flowers or Gift just because... Every day is a Holiday and a Gift that is why they call it "The Present"
RELAX : Spoil yourself, Spa, Movies, Check into a Hotel and Just read and sleep... have someone clean up after you and use ROOM Service, the Spa the Gym etc... you paid for it and deserve it.
SHARE your SMILE with Everyone, remember "A person's life should be BETTER because they met you" Mother Theresa
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Wednesday, December 26, 2007

"I am because we are, because we are, I am"

"I am because we are , because we are , I am " Happy Kwanzaa
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Be Proud Of YOUR Heritage!
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Kwanzaa (Established 1966) In August 1965, a riot erupted in Watts, a predominantly African-American Community in Los Angeles, California. People in the community were angry about the crumbling houses, low paying jobs, and racism they faced day after day. On August 11, 1965, the anger came to a boining point. ... the riot lasted for FOUR DAYS when it was over a change begun! ... Maualana Karenga was finishing his last year of graduate school and the rest is history...
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Kwanzaa Begins in 1966 (over 40 years)
Kwanzaa: Started by Maulana Karenga 1966 Cutural holiday based on the ancient customs of Africa He added an "a" to the Swahili word for first, kwanza, to creat the name for the holiday It is Non Heroic, Non Religious and is Not celebrated in Africa. Kwanzaa is an ORIGINAL African-American holiday, Kwanzaa is a time when African-Americans join together to honor the traditions of their ancestors. Planning for the year to come and working on ways to make themselves a better people and their community better a better community are important parts of the holiday, Kwanzaa is a celebration of the past, the present, and the future...
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December 26-January 1 Every Year
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Swahili Non Tribal African language spoken in East Africa:
Phrases that are a part of the Celebration
Hibari Gani "What's the news?" (Daily Greeting)
"Harambee!" Let's pull it together (One for each day)
Nguzo Saba "Seven Principles"
Dec 26, Umoja= Unity , 27/Kujichagulia= Self Determination, 28/ Ujima Collective Work and Responsibility, 29/Ujamaa= Cooperative Economics, 30/Nia= Purpose, 31/ (My Anniversary) Kuumba= Creativity, January 1 (Open Gifts) Imani = Faith
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"I am because we are , because we are , I am "
Information from: The Seven Days of Kwanzaa, how to celebrate them
by Angela Shelf Medearis
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I also use: My first Kwanzaa Book
by Deborah M Newton Chocolate. Illustrated by Cal Massey
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I buy Kwanzaa and Heritage Stamps and set up my Kwanzaa Corner every year... eventually in our family, there will be a big celebration, but most importantly the principles of kwazaa should be practiced EVERY DAY ! Our youth should be praised!
Ancestors should be recognize and the Quote repeated daily:
"I am because we are , because we are , I am "
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Buy Educational gifts: Books, puzzles, cultural outfits, read about an African American that you DO NOT know about each month, make a family heritage album, interview your parents and grandparents and make a DVD to send to family and friends.... Cook your favorite TRADITIONAL Food

Try this EASY and Quick:

Senegalese Cookies (Cinq centimes or 5 cent cookies - Dakar in Senegal)

Package of Sugar Cookies (or the Frozen ones you Bake... I prefer this way)

Chunky Peanut Butter

Chopped Peanuts

Bake the Sugar Cookies, let cool spread with peanut butter and sprinkle with chopped peanuts (UMMMMMMMMMMMM)

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North African Orange Salad (Four people)

2 Large Oranges (peeled and sliced thin)

2 cups of Lettuce (shredded)

1 Large (White) Onion (peeled and sliced thin)

8 Greek Olives (Pitted and sliced)

2 tablespoons of Olive Oil

2 tablespoons lemon Juice

1/8 tsp salt

1/8 tsp pepper

Mix Lettuce, onions and Olives together

Arrange the ORANGE SLICES ON TOP

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Mix Oil, lemon juice, salt and pepper together ... pour over salad and refrigerate

(google kwanzaa for more information and customize the celebration, for your family!) Harambee!


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Saturday, December 22, 2007

Do YOU Vanish or Show UP, during the Holidays... Be Thankful

Do YOU Vanish or Show Up during the Holidays? Be Thankful
There is a pattern...
Watch those who Vanish during the holidays to avoid ... giving or responding... then there are those who show up, you have not talked to them or seen them in months BUT the holiday is here... either way there is a concern.<> A SERIOUS Concern,

What is the real reason you "Vanish?" If it is because of money or to avoid gift giving THAT is not good, you always have a GIFT to share, just quit attaching a monetary value to it. A Call a SMILE, just a HUG can save a LIFE... They say most Suicides, Depression, Isolation and more happen during the Holidays especially with singles and those who feel they can NOT measure up! Look at the young boy at the Mall, Virginia Tech... Columbine and I can go on. This is a REALITY Check! It is NOT ALL ABOUT THE MONEY! Use your Talent... It is FREE and the Greatest Gift you can GIVE!
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ARE you ONE that SHOW UP FOR YOUR GIFT ... Empty handed?
Well this can be baaaad also, when you show up JUST TO RECEIVE.. and nothing to give, not even a "Hello, How You Doing" ... Or What can I do for you?... It is obvious when you only see someone around THEIR BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS or OTHER PARTY to benefit them, It becomes such a pattern they do not even know they are doing it, they have been conditioned and trained. MY WORD says, it is MORE Blessed to GIVE Than to RECEIVE...because God's Principle is TRUE ALWAYS when you give from the heart YOU DO GET BACK really Try it!
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I am speaking to myself, I am speaking to everyone that says "OUCH"
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I NO longer feel guilt not keeping up with the GIVING MANIA and WHO's Gift cost more, it is the meaning behind it. IT TOOK A LONG>>>> LONG >>> Time to get here... BUT IT IS WELL WORTH THE PEACE OF MIND... as I said for "Who's Birthday is it ANYWAY and to remember what is the reason behind your GIVING at ANY TIME of the Year. Think About it and CALL ME.
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BE THANKFUL....
Final NOTE A Tip From a Friend. Teach your children, to send a Thank you Card (or CALL) , BEFORE They Play with or USE the Gift received. You Do not send a Thank you gift for a thank you gift Just learn to receive.

YES! SHOW UP, Do not Isolate, GIVE your talent Be Thankful ...
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Who's Birthday is It Anyway?


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How would you feel if it was YOUR Birthday party, and everyone around you was ignoring you, and sharing gifts and left you totally out? I know I would feel bad. Yet we do it all the time. In this season, we forget the TRUE reason... and it becomes about US! Did you know that sharing your GOD GIVEN Talent is the greatest gift you can give GOD!

As a parent I know my BEST Gifts are those that my children make from the heart! I LOVE Hand made Cards and Story Books that the children create (don't forget to sign and date) I sit and go over them at least ONCE per month, I save their ART Work and sometimes I frame it. God feels the same Way, when you share your GOD GIVEN TALENT (Your SMILE ) It makes HIM SMILE and he shares it with the Angels and BRAGGS...

So This season, make someone SMILE ... It does not always take money.

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I Think a lot of people stay away from functions because they FEEL obligated to GIVE AN EXPENSIVE Gift, or the gift they get is NOT GOOD enough! Stop it, that becomes the receivers Problem, as long as you give from the heart, Share your SMILE that is good enough for GOD so it is good enough for EVERYONE Else. We must get away from being an ATM Society... An Instant Society I want it Now and MY Way... If EVERYONE thought about giving to others , It will eventually come back to you. TRY IT FROM THE HEART Today! I Guarantee Positive rewarding results, Just the point of Giving you are blessed. INSTANTLY The rest is a Bonus! Have a Wonderful Holiday and Continue to SMILE and Spread a Little JOY!

Thursday, December 6, 2007

PDA and PDA... Basic Etiquette hmmmm/Tell Me What you Think?

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PDA = Public Display of Affection
PDA= Personalized Digital Assistant
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Why am I bringing this up??? Have we gone from one extreme to the Other? Talk to me.
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We have gone from sooo much kissing and touching and hugging in public ... to
Digital Assistant Affection, where we have to go to school to learn how to TOUCH...Communicate FACE 2 FACE.
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This is SAD, because Two of our basic needs is the Sense of Community and Celebration/Play/Rest,
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We have to teach our Young people the PROPER time to kiss and hug... , And for those who do not know how... The good touch and how to socialize in a Trusting Good way. If not they get caught up in very bad situations, look at the children being lured on line... It is not the Internet that is ALL BAD! It is what we are NOT teaching our Youth, we are afraid to speak up because we are trying to hard to be our CHILD's FRIEND... There will be plenty of time to be their friend once they are GROWN... (I would say 25 ;- ) and up... They are still pulling on your coat tail until then...
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I do not Think Public Display of Affection is appropriate for anyone (Old or Young) in a Family or Open Social Situation (Kissing... Petting... Hugging Constantly) Especially if you are sitting with others that are Single ... and just there "Watching" // There is a time and a place for everything...
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The same with Personalized Digital Assistants! I think it is RUDE to Text and continue to Text (or talk on the Cell Phone) while you are out with someone else unless you BOTH are involved (or Agree) in the conversation... PLEASE ! Get up and leave! Remember You teach people how to TREAT YOU!.. Even in a shopping situation, If the sales person takes a "Call" over you standing there personally ... Leave, that is RUDE, she should tell the person on the phone to hold on until she completes your transaction.
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Technology is supposed to ENHANCE relationships, not replace them
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Am I just toooooo "Old Fashioned" What do YOU THINK!
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